A Grief Observed

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“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid , but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same relentless, the yawning. “
Losing a relative or a close friend is one of my biggest fears and can not imagine what it would be like. I suppose I would respond as Lewis did with relating it to the same feelings of fear. I really enjoy the style of this book and how it represents exactly how he felt after losing his wife. Two weeks ago, I almost lost my father so I can somewhat relate to what Lewis is dealing with. It is interesting to read about how he deals with the situation and how he views God’s involvement. It’s quiet typical for Christians to wonder where God is during certain situations, but it isn’t as typical for them to voice that. Some think it is out of line to question why certain things happen or why “God allowed certain things to happen,” as some would say. There is no way that the human mind can comprehend the way God works and why he allows or doesn’t allow things to happen. This is when instead of asking “God, why did this to happen,” one should think “although I do not understand why this happened, I will do my best to figure out what I can learn from this, or what is God trying to show me. “
I relate this reading to the short story The Blessed House we read because the main characters are a couple. It seems as though Jack and H have a better relationship than Twinkie and Sanjeev. The only problem is, we are reading from Jacks view instead of H’s. Although Jack may love her so much, H may not love him the same exact way. In both stories we are reading from the guy side of the relationship which can be completely different than the way the girl views the relationship. Which is true in most relationships One difference I did notice is the way the men viewed their significant others. Sanjeev most definitely did not love Twinkie the way that Jack loved H. If Twinkie passed away, Sanjeev would probably not grieve as much as Jack did since he is not madly in love with Twinkie.